Book Club Discussion Questions

for A Sky of Infinite Blue

Kyomi wishes you, as the readers of her book, to relate her stories with your own life experiences. We all have stories to share within. The following questions may encourage you to crystalize your thoughts and feelings upon reading her memoir and facilitate our discussions for further awakening and realization.

  • The memoir begins with Kyomi’s husband’s passing moment. How did it affect you and impact Kyomi’s overall story?
  • While Kyomi was grieving after Patrick’s death, she reflected upon her own feelings and phycological state, which caused old memories of trauma from her childhood to surface. Were any of her mental and psychological transitions relatable to you?
  • What does grieving mean to you? How do you cope with grief?
  • Kyomi spent her childhood and early adult years in Japan. Her cultural and family contexts may be different from yours, but how did you relate to young Kyomi in the story?
  • How can we be more compassionate, understanding, and accepting of people from different races, cultures, and upbringings than our own?
  • Kyomi held on to childhood trauma which brought on problems in her early adulthood. How do we see these patterns of such mental and psychological issues in our society today? What support can we extend to children of such trauma?
  • Kyomi met Patrick, who was from England with Irish heritage. What cultural influences worked for them to fall in love at almost first sight? What were some possible common features between them?
  • At the beginning of Patrick and Kyomi’s relationship, Patrick provided unconditional love and support for her to heal. What changes occurred in their relationship over time, and why?
  • Marriage and relationship require constant attention and work of love. How do you relate your own marriage and/or relationship as you read Patrick and Kyomi’s?
  • Influenced by his illness and their fates, Kyomi and Patrick’s relationship changed. Kyomi tried hard to hold onto it with good faith and practice of the Buddhist teaching. Can you share a moment of relentless inevitable force in your life? What comes out of these experiences?
  • What may Kyomi have felt after she lost Patrick in the end of three years’ non-stop caregiving?
  • Are there any cultural awes to you when you read Kyomi’s memoir?
  • What remains in your heart after you read A Sky of Infinite Blue?
  • Are there anything you would like to share by getting to know Kyomi and her stories?

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